Anthu amadziwa kuti pamafunika chikondi, chikondi, chilakolako, kukhulupirirana, kulankhulana, ndi zina zotero kuti ubwenzi ukhale wolimba. Izi ndi zina mwazinthu zofunika kwambiri zomangira ubale.
Komabe, anthu omwe ali paubwenzi amakonda kuiwala kapena kusayang'ana kwambiri zina zazing'ono kapena zoyambira za ubale zomwe zimatha kukulitsa ubale ndikulimbitsa ubale. Chimodzi mwa zinthu zimenezi ndi ubwenzi.
Monga nyimbo ya Michael Bolton imati, "Tingakhale bwanji okonda, ngati sitingakhale mabwenzi?" Ngakhale iyi ndi nyimbo yanyimbo chabe, ndi imodzi yomwe ili ndi tanthauzo lalikulu. Ubwenzi ndi wofunika kwambiri m’maubwenzi ndipo ungathandizedi maanja kulimbikitsa maubwenzi omwe ali nawo. Ndi imodzi mwa midadada yambiri yomwe imathandiza kumanga ndi kulimbikitsa maubwenzi.
Zomwe Anzanu Amachita Zomwe Muyenera Kuchita Muubwenzi Wanu
Kusangalala ndi Kampani Yanu
Musanapange chibwenzi, kodi mabwenzi anu anali ndani? Anzanu! Awa ndi anthu omwe mudachita nawo chilichonse kuyambira tsiku limodzi kupita ku bar kupita kumalo osangalalira. Munakonda kucheza ndi anzanu - ndipo mwina mukutero.Alex Wise, katswiri wa zaubwenzi wa pa malo a zibwenzi a Loveawake anatsimikizira kuti: “Muyenera kukhala mabwenzi ndi bwenzi lanu ndi kusangalala kwenikweni kukhala limodzi tsiku limodzi mosasamala kanthu za zomwe mukuchita. Kaya nonse mumapita kukawedza chifukwa ndi nthawi yomwe amakonda kwambiri, kapena mumapita kukagula nsapato chifukwa cha malonda, muyenera kuthera nthawi yanu pamodzi ndikuzikondadi.”
Kuwononga Nthawi Yabwino Ndi Wina Naye
Anzanu amafunikira nthawi yolankhula ndi wina za masiku awo, nkhawa zawo ndi china chilichonse chomwe chili m'malingaliro awo. Mabwenzi amatha kukhala mabwenzi abwino kwambiri akamacheza ndi kuchita zinthu zimene mabwenzi abwino amachita.
Popanda kugwirizana pa zinthu zazing'ono ndi kulowa mu khalidwe limodzi-m'modzi pamodzi, n'kovuta kwambiri kupitiriza kukhala ndi ubwenzi ndi kusunga ubale wanu mwatsopano. Alex anati: “Yesani kuthera mphindi zosachepera 30 mukukambirana za mmene moyo wanu wayendera ndi kulimbikitsana nkhani zabwino. Mungadabwe kuti mabanja angati akuphonya kugawana, zomwe zingapangitse kuti pakhale mtunda pakati pawo.
Kupereka Phewa Kuti Mutsamire Kapena Kulira
Masiku oipa amachitika. Ndipotu iwo ali mbali yosapeŵeka ya moyo. Zilibe kanthu ngati mmodzi wa inu anali ndi tsiku loipa kuntchito chifukwa chakuti mnzanu wa kuntchito analankhula mawu onyansa kwa inu kapena chifukwa chakuti Azakhali anu a Susie ali m’chipatala.Anthu okwatirana ayenera kukhala ndi ubwenzi umene angadalire wina ndi mnzake pamene akuufuna. Wokondedwa wanu ayenera kudziwa nthawi zonse kuti mulipo kuti akambirane chilichonse chomwe chikumuvutitsa. Ngakhale atakhala kuti sakufuna kulankhula, ayenera kudziwa kuti mumawathandiza pa nthawi ya mavuto.
Kulankhulana Momasuka
Mabwenzi enieni amatha kulankhulana momasuka komanso moona mtima. Amakhala omasuka kuuza mnzawo zakukhosi kwawo chilichonse komanso amakhala okonzeka kumvetsera mnzawo amene akufuna kukambirana nawo.
Ziyenera kukhala momwemonso muubwenzi. Muyenera kumverera kuti mutha kuululira zakukhosi kwa mnzanu pa chilichonse. Muyeneranso kumverera ngati nthawi yoti mulankhule itafika - okondedwa anu adzakumverani, yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe mukunena kapena kugawana nawo, ndikuwona momwe mukumvera kapena maganizo anu ndizofunikira.
Mwachidule, inu ndi mnzanuyo muyenera kukhala okhoza kufotokoza momasuka ndi moona mtima maganizo, maganizo, ndi maganizo a wina ndi mzake monga momwe anzako amachitira.
Kodi Mungadziwe Bwanji Ngati Pali Ubwenzi Muubwenzi Wanga?
Ngati mukufuna kudziwa ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo muli mabwenzi apamtima, ingoyankhani mafunso otsatirawa.
Kodi mungalankhule ndi bwenzi lanu pa chilichonse?
• Kodi bwenzi lanu ndi inu amene muli?
• Mumamasuka kuyankhulana ndi okondedwa wanu?
• Mungadalire bwenzi lanu pakufunika kutero?
• Mukuwona kuti mutha kulira kapena kutsamira paphewa la wokondedwa wanu pakufunika kutero?
Kodi mumakonda kucheza ndi bwenzi lanu - ngakhale mukuchita zing'onozing'ono?
Ngati inu ndi mnzanuyo muyankha inde ku mafunso awa, ndiye kuti muli ndi ubwenzi wabwino kwambiri.
Kodi Chikondi ndi Kukhudzika Sizokwanira?
Chilakolako sichimapanga ubale wolimba, ngakhale chimabweretsa mbali yofunika kwambiri paubwenzi womwe umaphatikizapo kusangalala, kugwirizana komanso ngakhale chikondi.Komabe, unansi wolimba umafunika zambiri osati kungolakalaka chabe.
Ubwenzi umatanthauza kugawana, kuyankhulana komanso kukhala ndi munthu wina kwa inu nthawi zonse. Ngati muli ndi ana pamodzi kapena kungokhala moyo wotanganidwa, mwina mukudziwa bwino kuti chilakolako mu ubale wanu si nthawi zonse.
M'malo mwake, ubwenzi ndi njira yosonyezera kuti mumasamala pa nthawi zomwe simungathe kuzifotokoza mwachikondi kapena mwachikondi.
Kupeza Malo a Ubwenzi
Malinga ndi Alex Wise: “unansi uliwonse wamphamvu umafunikira kulinganiza koyenera kwa chikondi, chilakolako ndi ubwenzi. Popanda kulinganiza, ubale wanu udzakhala wopanda pake, zomwe zingapangitse kuti chilakolakocho chiziyenda bwino ndipo palibe chomwe mungadalire. "
Kapena, mungakhale ndi mabwenzi ochuluka komanso opanda chikondi chokwanira, zomwe zimasokoneza mbali zina za ubale wanu.
Kuti mupeze mpata waubwenzi popanda kuwononga mbali zina zaukwati wanu, muyenera kusankha nthawi makamaka yachikondi kapena makamaka yaubwenzi, ngakhale mutakonza nthawiyo.
Mwachitsanzo, mutha kupanga nthawi ya chakudya chamadzulo kukhala nthawi yaubwenzi ndikukambirana za tsiku lanu. M’malo mwake, mungagwiritse ntchito nthaŵi imene muli pabedi kaamba ka chikondi ndi chikondi. Kapena, mungafune kuganizira zotuluka ngati nthawi yaubwenzi, ndikukhala ndi tsiku limodzi kapena awiri pa sabata kuti muzikondana, kutanthauza kuti mumapita kukawonera kanema wachikondi kapena kusangalala ndi chakudya choyatsa makandulo pa bistro yomwe mumakonda.
Mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, muyenera kupeza njira yopangira ubale wanu ndi ubale wanu kuti ukhale wolimba. Musaiwale zomwe ubwenzi wabwino uli nawo ndikuyesera kukhalabe ndiubwenzi ndi wokondedwa wanu. Ubale wanu udzapindula ndi kuphatikiza kwamphamvu kumeneku.