Moyo uli ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana, zabwino ndi zoipa. Chisudzulo ndi chimene nthawi zambiri chimatchedwa chipwirikiti. Ngakhale kuti ndondomeko yanu yalamulo ingakhale yopepuka motani mothandizidwa ndi maloya anu osudzulana, n’kovutabe kupulumuka chisudzulo chifukwa cha mikhalidwe yotsendereza. Ndipo izi ndizachilengedwe chifukwa moyo ukusintha ndipo zimatha kukhala zovuta kuzolowera zinthu zatsopano, makamaka moyo wabanja lanu utakhala bwino. Kutha kwa banja kumakhala kovutirapo mulimonse momwe zingakhalire ndipo mumkhalidwewu muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungathanirane ndi kusudzulana kuti zisakule kukhala zovuta zazikulu.
Kutha kwaukwati kumakhudzananso ndi kuwonongedwa kwa chiyembekezo. Zimatipangitsa kugwera m’kukayikakayika, n’chifukwa chake kusudzulana kumapweteka kwambiri. Koma panthawiyi m'pofunika kuyang'anitsitsa maganizo anu ndikuyang'ana njira zothetsera. Mwachibadwa, kuthetsa kulikonse kumakhala kwapadera, koma pali malangizo ofunikira, omwe amayi ndi abambo amatha kuthana ndi kusudzulana bwino.
Pezani gulu lothandizira
M’pofunika kwambiri kuti muzitsatira maganizo anu, kuti mumvetse mmene mukumvera. Koma mulimonse, musayese kuwatsekereza ndi zina monga zibwenzi zingapo, kudya kwambiri kapena mowa. Ngakhale kukhumudwa kumayenera kukhala nako kuti mulole kupita patsogolo. Ngakhale ndizovuta kwambiri kuchita nokha. Choncho, ndi bwino kupeza munthu amene angakuthandizeni ndi kukuthandizani kuchita zimenezi. Mwina adzakhala katswiri wa zamaganizo, bwenzi lapamtima, mnzanu, kapena wachibale wanu. Ndi njira yabwinonso kupeza magulu othandizira omwe anthu omwe ali ndi moyo wofanana amasonkhanitsidwa. Kudutsa nthawi zovuta pamodzi kumakhala komasuka.Lolani kuti mupumule
N’kwachibadwa kuvutika maganizo m’chisudzulo. Panthawi imeneyi, mukhoza kukhala osapindula kwambiri kuntchito ndipo ngakhale kuiwala za moyo wanu wocheza nawo. Ngati izi ndi zomwe zidakuchitikirani, ndi bwino kutenga tchuthi pang'ono ndikusintha mawonekedwe. Mwachitsanzo, pitani kumalo okongola komwe mungapumule ndikuwonjezeranso. Zingakhale zabwino kukaona malo omwe simunapiteko kuti mukhale ndi malingaliro abwino.
Dzisamalireni nokha ndi thupi lanu
Imodzi mwa njira zabwino kwambiri zochotsera malingaliro olakwika ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi. Pano mukhoza kutaya ululu wanu wonse, mkwiyo, mkwiyo, kukhumudwa. Kupatula apo, kulimbitsa thupi kumakhalanso ndi zotsatira zabwino pathupi lanu. Lolani ex akhale ndi nsanje ndi mawonekedwe anu atsopano. Zatsimikiziridwa kuti kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumathandizanso kuti munthu azisangalala. Kusudzulana ndi mwayi wabwino kwambiri wokonzekera gombe kapena nyengo yachisanu. Komanso, musaiwale za ena, nthawi ndi nthawi yesani kukonzekera njira zopumula nokha, monga kutikita minofu kapena chisamaliro cha spa. Valani zovala zokongola; ichi ndi chinthu chomwe chidzakondweretsa maso anu ndikuwonjezera kudzidalira.
Yesetsani kuti musamacheze ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu.
Ngakhale kuti chisudzulo sichinathe, yesetsani kuchepetsa kulankhulana ndi amene adzakhale-ex posachedwapa. Kambiranani pamitu yofunika yokhudzana ndi kuthetsedwa kwanu komanso tsogolo la ana anu. Izi ndizofunikira kuti tipewe mikangano yayikulu ndikuchepetsa sewero. Pambuyo pake, pamene nthawi ikupita ndipo malingaliro amatha, mumatha kulankhulana ngati mabwenzi akale, koma nthawi yoyamba, pamene chilonda chili mumtima mwanu, ndi bwino kubwerera kumbuyo.Phunzirani kukhululuka
Kukhululukidwa ndicho chinthu chachikulu cha mmene mungapiririre chisudzulo chopweteka. Ngakhale zingakhale zovuta bwanji, mukhululukireni wakale wanu. Pakuti, choyamba, ndikofunikira kwa inu, osati kwa iye. Mokulira, ngati mukukhumudwabe, izi sizikhudza moyo wake konse. Koma zimawononga kwambiri moyo wanu. Sichikulolani kuti mupite patsogolo, sichimalola kumanga moyo watsopano. Chipongwe ndi mdima umene umawononga moyo. Kukhululuka ndi njira ya machiritso. Ngakhale zitakupwetekani kwambiri, yesani kuzisiya, ndipo mudzakhala bwino. Kukhululuka ndi kumene kumapangitsa moyo wanu kukhala wofewa komanso wodzaza.
Zilekeni zikhale
Dzipatseni nthawi yoti muyambenso kuchira. Kenako mulole zakale zanu zipite. Ngati mlanduwo watha, ndi nthawi yoti muthane ndi malingaliro pambuyo pa kusudzulana. Choyamba, muyenera kumvetsetsa nokha ndikupeza zifukwa zomwe zinapangitsa kuti ubale wanu uwonongeke. Onse awiri ali ndi mlandu nthawi zonse pa mkangano. Unikani zochita zanu ndipo yesani kupeza chomwe mwalakwitsa. Ichi ndi sitepe yofunika, chifukwa idzathandiza kupewa zolakwika m'tsogolomu. Mwina mukufuna thandizo la katswiri. Ndipo kutentha kukafa, mutha kufunsanso wakale wanu, za vuto lanu.Limbikitsani maganizo abwino
Muli ndi sewero lokwanira m'moyo wanu, ndipo muyenera kuyamba kuyang'ana zabwino. Mwachitsanzo, kuwerenga mabuku olimbikitsa, kucheza ndi anthu ochezeka, kuchita zinthu zomwe zimakupatsirani mphamvu, kupeza zosangalatsa komanso kupeza zabwino muzinthu zazing'ono. Ngati mumayang'ana kwambiri zinthu zabwino, simudzakhala ndi nthawi yowona momwe moyo wanu wasinthira mwachangu.
Ingodziphunzitsani kuganizira zinthu zokongola ngakhale pa nthawi zovuta. Ndipo mabuku apadera adzakuthandizani pa izi. Pansipa pali mndandanda wa mabuku okhudza kuthana ndi zovuta za chisudzulo:
1. "Palibe Amene Ali ndi Mlandu" wolemba Bob Hoffman
Pali mabuku ambiri onena za mmene tingapulumukire mayesero a moyo. Koma bukuli ndi lapadera chifukwa limafotokoza njira ya wolembayo yopangidwa ndi Bambo Hoffman. Njira yomwe ikufotokozedwamo, Njira ya Quadrinity, imakupatsani mwayi wodziwonetsa mopambanitsa moyo wanu ndikuyang'ana zinthu zomwe mumazidziwa mwatsopano. Bukuli lili ndi maupangiri amzimu komanso kulumikizana ndi mizimu. Njira iyi, yomwe idapangidwa mu 1967, yathandiza kale anthu ambiri kupulumuka kulimbana m'moyo.
2. "Kusagwirizana Kwambiri: Njira 5 Zokhalira Mosangalala Nthawi Zonse" lolemba Katherine Woodward Thomas.
Mabuku ambiri onena za mmene mungachitire ndi kusudzulana amatsindika kwambiri za akazi. Koma bukuli ndi lothandiza kwambiri kwa aliyense! Katherine amagawana nzeru za moyo zomwe zimathandiza kupeza mtendere ndi mgwirizano mu masitepe asanu. Mukawerenga bukuli, moyo wanu udzakhala wozindikira komanso woganizira.
3. "Mkuntho Sizingawononge Kuthambo: Njira Yachibuda Kupyolera mu Chisudzulo" lolemba Gabriel Cohen
Bukhuli linalembedwa pa nkhani ya wolembayo, ndipo lilinso ndi malangizo osiyanasiyana othandiza omwe angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi malingaliro ndikudziloŵetsa mukukula kwauzimu.
4. "Kugwa M'chigawo Chimodzi: Ulendo Wamodzi Wokhulupirira Mmodzi Kupyolera M'Gehena Yachisudzulo" wolemba Stacy Morrison
Bukhulo linalembedwa pa zochitika zaumwini za wolemba, zomwe zinayeneranso kupirira chisudzulo chowawa. Kulemba ndi nthabwala, amatiphunzitsa kukhala ndi moyo watsopano, kukonda, kukhululukira ndi kukhulupirira mwa inu nokha.
5. “Kuthetsa Kusudzulana Kwanu: Mmene Mungasinthire Kutaika Kosakaza Kukhala Chinthu Chabwino Kwambiri Chimene Chinakuchitikiranipo” lolembedwa ndi Susan J. Elliott
Ili ndi buku labwino kwambiri lomwe limapereka malangizo amomwe mungachotsere kudalira munthu wakale ndikusiya kuyang'ana pa iye.
6. "Izi Ndizomwe Ndikukusiyani" ndi Heidi Priebe
Kutha kwa banja kumakhala kovuta, makamaka ngati mumakonda munthu uyu. Bukhu lolembedwa ndi Heidi Priebe limathandiza kuti munthu amene anakusiyani apite kuti apulumuke kukupha.
7. "Chinthu Chokongola, Chowopsya" ndi Jen Waite
Bukhu linanso lalembedwa pa mbiri yaumwini ya wolemba. Jen anayenera kuphunzira za kusakhulupirika kwa mwamuna wake-sociopath ndi kupirira chisudzulo chochititsa mantha. Muntchito yake amagawana zomwe adakumana nazo komanso zomwe zidamuthandiza kuti apulumuke pamavuto.
8. "Zimachitika Tsiku Lililonse: Nkhani Yowona Kwambiri" ndi Isabel Gilles
Buku lolembedwa kaamba ka anthu amene aika zambiri m’banja, osachita khama, ndipo nthaŵi zina ngakhale kuvulaza. Zidzakupangitsani kusiya kudzimvera chisoni ndikusiya kuvutika, komanso zidzakuthandizani kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino.
Pambuyo pake
Kusudzulana kungawononge munthu. Koma awa si mathero a moyo. Nthawi zonse khulupirirani tsogolo labwino. Chifukwa pali zochitika pamene kuti mumange chinthu chatsopano, muyenera kugwetsa zonse zakale. Chisudzulo ndi nthawi yoganiziranso moyo wanu, kuyesetsa zolakwa, kusintha zizolowezi zoipa ndikukulitsa malingaliro anu. Anthu ambiri adutsa kale mwachipambano m’zochitika zazikulu zoterozo m’miyoyo yawo, tsimikizirani kuti inunso mudzatha kulimbana nazo.