Abantu bazi ko bisaba urukundo, urukundo, ishyaka, kwizerana, gushyikirana, nibindi kugirango umubano ugende neza. Ibi nibimwe mubikorwa byubaka byubaka.
Nyamara, abantu mumibanire bakunda kwibagirwa cyangwa kutibanda kuri bimwe mubanze bito cyangwa ahubwo shingiro ryibanze rishobora gushimangira umubano no gushimangira umubano. Kimwe muri ibyo bintu kiba ubucuti.
Nkuko indirimbo ya Michael Bolton ibivuga, "Nigute dushobora kuba abakunzi, niba tudashobora kuba inshuti?" Mugihe iyi ari amagambo yindirimbo gusa, nimwe ifite ibisobanuro byinshi. Ubucuti ni ngombwa cyane mubucuti kandi burashobora gufasha rwose abashakanye gushimangira ubumwe basangiye. Nimwe mubice byinshi bifasha kubaka no gushimangira umubano.
Ibintu Inshuti Zikora Ibyo Ugomba Gukora Mubusabane bwawe
Kwishimira Isosiyete Yabandi
Mbere yuko mukundana, abo mwari kumwe ninde? Inshuti zawe! Aba ni abantu wakoze byose uhereye kumara umunsi ujya mukabari ukajya muri parike yimyidagaduro. Wishimiye gutemberana n'inshuti zawe - kandi birashoboka ko uracyabikora.Alex Wise, impuguke mu mibanire y’urubuga rwo gukundana na Loveawake yemeza ati: “Ugomba kuba inshuti numukunzi wawe kandi ukishimira rwose kumarana umunsi uko waba ukora kose. Waba mwembi mujya kuroba kubera ko ari imyidagaduro akunda, cyangwa ujya guhaha inkweto kuko hari igurishwa, ugomba kumarana umwanya kandi ukunda rwose. ”
Gukoresha Igihe Cyiza Na buriwese
Inshuti zikeneye umwanya wo kuganira nundi kubyerekeye iminsi yabo, impungenge zabo nibindi byose mumitekerereze yabo. Inshuti zirashobora kuba inshuti nziza mugihe cyiza bamarana muganira no gukora ibintu inshuti nziza zikora.
Utarinze guhuza utuntu duto no kwinjira muri ubwo bwiza rimwe-rimwe hamwe, biragoye cyane gukomeza kugirana ubucuti no gukomeza umubano wawe mushya. Alex atanga inama: “gerageza kumara byibuze iminota 30 muganira hagati yukuntu iminsi yawe yombi yagenze no gufashanya amakuru meza. Wotangazwa n'ukuntu abashakanye babuze gusangira hagati yabo, ibyo bikaba biganisha ku ntera hagati yabo. ”
Gutanga Urutugu rwo Kwishingikiriza cyangwa kurira
Iminsi mibi irabaho. Mubyukuri, nibice byanze bikunze mubuzima. Ntacyo bitwaye niba umwe muri mwe yagize umunsi mubi ku kazi kubera ko uwo mukorana yakubwiye ikintu cyangwa kubera ko nyirasenge Susie ari mu bitaro.Abashakanye bakeneye kugirana ubucuti aho bashobora kwishingikirizaho mugihe babikeneye. Umukunzi wawe agomba kumenya buri gihe ko uhari kugirango baganire kubintu byose bimubangamiye. Nubwo yaba adashaka kuvuga, agomba kumenya ko uhari ubashyigikiye mugihe gikenewe.
Gushyikirana kumugaragaro hamwe
Inshuti nyazo zirashobora kuvugana byoroshye kumugaragaro no kuvugisha ukuri. Bashobora kumva borohewe no kubwira inshuti yabo ikintu icyo aricyo cyose kandi nabo barahari kugirango bumve inshuti ishaka kuvugana nabo.
Bikwiye kumera kimwe mubucuti. Ugomba kumva ko ushobora kubwira umukunzi wawe ikintu icyo aricyo cyose. Ugomba kandi kumva nkaho igihe kigeze cyo kuvugana - umukunzi wawe azagutega amatwi, gerageza kumva ibyo uvuga cyangwa kubisangiza, kandi urebe ko ibyiyumvo byawe cyangwa ibitekerezo byawe ari ngombwa.
Muri make, wowe na mugenzi wawe mugomba gushobora kugaragariza kumugaragaro no kuvugisha ukuri ibyiyumvo, ibitekerezo, nibitekerezo nkuko inshuti zibikora.
Nigute Wamenya Niba hari Ubucuti Mubusabane bwanjye?
Niba ushaka kumenya niba wowe na mugenzi wawe ari inshuti nziza, subiza ibibazo bikurikira.
• Urashobora kuvugana numukunzi wawe kubintu byose?
• Ese umukunzi wawe usibye wowe uwo uriwe koko?
• Urumva byoroshye kuvugana numukunzi wawe?
• Urashobora kwishingikiriza kuri mugenzi wawe mugihe ubikeneye?
• Urumva ko ushobora kurira cyangwa kwishingikiriza ku rutugu rwa mugenzi wawe mugihe ubikeneye?
• Wishimira ko umarana umwanya na mugenzi wawe - nubwo ukora ibintu bito?
Niba wowe na mugenzi wawe basubije yego kuri ibi bibazo, noneho ufite ubucuti bwiza.
Urukundo & Ishyaka ntibihagije?
Ishyaka ntirishobora kugirana umubano ukomeye, nubwo rizana ikintu cyingenzi mubucuti burimo kwishimisha, guhuza ndetse no gukundana.Ariko, umubano ukomeye ukeneye ibirenze ubushake.
Ubucuti bivuze gusangira, gushyikirana no guhora ufite umuntu kuri wewe. Niba ufite abana hamwe cyangwa ukabaho gusa mubuzima buhuze, birashoboka ko uzi neza ko ishyaka mumibanire yawe ridahoraho.
Ibinyuranye, ubucuti nuburyo bwo kukwitaho muri ibyo bihe mugihe udashobora kubigaragaza ukoresheje ishyaka cyangwa urukundo.
Gukora Icyumba cy'Ubucuti
Nk’uko Alex Wise abivuga: “umubano uwo ari wo wose ukomeye ukenera kuringaniza urukundo, ishyaka n'ubucuti. Hatabayeho gushyira mu gaciro, umubano wawe uzahinduka urujijo, ibyo bikaba byaviramo ishyaka ryinshi kandi nta kindi wishingikirizaho. ”
Cyangwa, urashobora kugira ubucuti bukabije kandi ntibukundane bihagije, bigashyira ibintu mubindi bice byubucuti bwawe.
Kugirango ubone umwanya wubucuti utabangamiye izindi ngingo zubumwe bwawe, ugomba kugena igihe cyane cyane kurukundo cyangwa cyane cyane mubucuti, nubwo ugomba guteganya igihe.
Kurugero, ushobora guhora ukora ifunguro rya nimugoroba umwanya wubucuti no kuganira kumunsi wawe. Ibinyuranye, ushobora gukoresha igihe uryamye kugirango ukundane. Cyangwa, urashobora gushaka gusohokana nkigihe cyubucuti, ukagira umunsi umwe cyangwa ibiri wicyumweru kugirango mukundane, bivuze ko ujya kureba firime yurukundo cyangwa ukishimira ifunguro rya buji kuri bistro ukunda.
Ibyo aribyo byose, ugomba gushaka uburyo bwo gukora umubano wawe nubucuti bikorana kugirango ube umubano ukomeye. Ntiwibagirwe icyo ubucuti bwiza bugizwe kandi ugerageze gukomeza urwego rwubucuti numukunzi wawe. Umubano wawe uzasarura ibihembo byuruvange rukomeye.