Abantu bayazi ukuthi kudinga ezothando, uthando, uthando, ukwethembana, ukuxhumana nokunye ukwenza ubudlelwano busebenze. Lezi ngezinye zezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu zokwakha ubuhlobo.
Kodwa-ke, abantu abasebudlelwaneni bavame ukukhohlwa noma ukungagxili kwezinye zezinto eziyisisekelo zobudlelwano obuncane noma eziyisisekelo ezingajulisa izibopho futhi ziqinise ubudlelwano. Enye yalezo zinto kwenzeka ubungane.
Njengoba ingoma kaMichael Bolton ithi, "Singaba kanjani izithandani, uma singakwazi ukuba abangane?" Nakuba lena kuyiculo kuphela, ingeyodwa enencazelo eningi. Ubungane bubaluleke kakhulu ebudlelwaneni futhi bungasiza ngempela imibhangqwana ukuqinisa izibopho ababelana ngazo. Ingenye yamabhulokhi amaningi asiza ukwakha nokuqinisa ubudlelwano.
Izinto Abangani Abazenzayo Okumele Ngabe Uyazenza Ebudlelwaneni Bakho
Ukujabulela Inkampani Yomunye nomunye
Ngaphambi kokuthi uqome, babengobani abangani bakho? Abangani bakho! Laba ngabantu owenze yonke into nabo kusukela ekuchitheni usuku ukuya endaweni yokucima ukoma kuya epaki yokuzijabulisa. Ukujabulele ukuhlanganyela nabangane bakho - futhi mhlawumbe usakwenza.U-Alex Wise, uchwepheshe wobudlelwano ovela engosini yokuqomisana yaseLoveawake uyaqinisekisa: “Kumelwe ube umngane nomlingani wakho futhi nijabulele ngempela ukuchitha usuku ndawonye kungakhathaliseki ukuthi nenzani. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi niyahamba nobabili niyodoba ngoba kuyindlela ayithandayo yokuzilibazisa, noma niyothenga izicathulo ngenxa yokuthi ziyadayiswa, kufanele nichithe isikhathi ndawonye futhi nizithanda ngobuqotho.”
Ukuchitha Isikhathi Sekhwalithi Nomunye
Abangane badinga isikhathi sokukhuluma nomunye ngezinsuku zabo, okubakhathazayo kanye nanoma yini enye esemqondweni wabo. Abangane bayakwazi ukuba abangane abangcono ngesikhathi esikahle abasichitha ndawonye bexoxa futhi benza izinto ezenziwa abangane abahle.
Ngaphandle kokubopha izinto ezincane kanye nokungena kuleyo mfanelo ngesikhathi esisodwa ndawonye, kunzima kakhulu ukuqhubeka nokuba nobungane futhi ugcine ubuhlobo bakho busha. U-Alex uyasikisela: “Zamani ukuchitha okungenani imizuzu engu-30 nixoxa ngokuthi izinsuku zenu nobabili zihambe kanjani futhi nisekelana ngezindaba ezinhle. Ungamangala ukuthi mingaki imibhangqwana ephuthelwa ukwabelana ngomunye nomunye, okungaholela kude phakathi kwabo.”
Ukunikeza Ihlombe ukuze Uncike noma Ukhale
Izinsuku ezimbi ziyenzeka. Eqinisweni, ziyingxenye yokuphila engenakugwema. Akusho lutho ukuthi omunye wenu ube nosuku olubi emsebenzini ngenxa yokuthi umuntu osebenza naye ukhulume into embi kuwe noma ngoba u-Anti wakho uSusie usesibhedlela.Imibhangqwana kufanele ibe nobungane lapho ikwazi ukuncika komunye nomunye lapho ibudinga. Umlingani wakho kufanele ahlale azi ukuthi ukhona ukuze akhulume nganoma yini emhluphayo. Noma engafuni ukukhuluma, kufanele azi ukuthi ukhona umeseka ngesikhathi sobunzima.
Ukukhulumisana Ngokukhululekile Nomunye
Abangane bangempela bangakhulumisana kalula ngokukhululekile nangokwethembeka. Bangazizwa bekhululekile ukuthulula isifuba kumngane wabo nganoma yini futhi bakhona ukuze balalele umngane ofuna ukuxhumana nabo.
Kufanele kube ngendlela efanayo ebudlelwaneni. Kufanele ube nomuzwa wokuthi ungathululela isifuba kumlingani wakho nganoma yini nanoma yini. Kufanele futhi uzizwe sengathi sekuyisikhathi sokuthi nikhulume - umlingani wakho uzokulalela, azame ukuqonda okushoyo noma ukwabelana naye, futhi uthathe imizwa noma imibono yakho njengento ebalulekile.
Kafushane nje, wena nomlingani wakho kufanele nikwazi ukuveza imizwa, imibono, nemicabango ngokukhululekile nangokwethembeka njengoba kwenza abangane.
Ungazi Kanjani Uma Bukhona Ubungane Ebudlelwaneni Bami?
Uma ufuna ukwazi ukuthi wena nophathina wakho ningabangane abakhulu, vele uphendule imibuzo elandelayo.
• Ungakwazi yini ukukhuluma nophathina wakho nganoma yini?
• Ingabe uphathina wakho ngaphandle kwakho ngalokho oyikho ngempela?
• Ingabe uzizwa ukhululekile ukuxhumana nomlingani wakho?
• Ungakwazi ukuthembela kumlingani wakho uma udinga?
• Ingabe unomuzwa wokuthi ungakhala noma uncike ehlombe likamlingani wakho lapho kudingeka?
• Uyakujabulela ukuchitha isikhathi nomlingani wakho - ngisho noma wenza izinto ezincane?
Uma wena nozakwenu niphendula ngoyebo kule mibuzo, ninobungani obuhle kakhulu.
Ingabe Uthando Nenkanuko Akwanele?
Uthando alwenzi ubuhlobo obuqinile, nakuba buletha isici esibalulekile ebuhlotsheni obuhlanganisa ukuzijabulisa, ukusondelana ngisho nothando.Nokho, ubuhlobo obuqinile budinga okungaphezu nje kothando.
Ubungane busho ukwabelana, ukuxhumana kanye nokuhlala nomuntu okhona kuwe. Uma ninezingane ndawonye noma niphila impilo ematasa, cishe wazi kahle ukuthi uthando ebudlelwaneni benu aluhlali lukhona.
Kunalokho, ubungane buyindlela yokubonisa ukuthi uyakhathalela ngalezo zikhathi lapho ungakwazi ukukuveza ngothando noma ngothando.
Ukwakha Indawo Yobungane
Ngokuka-Alex Wise: “Noma ibuphi ubuhlobo obuqinile budinga ibhalansi efanele yothando, intshiseko nobungane. Ngaphandle kwebhalansi, ubudlelwano bakho buzokonakala, okungaholela ekutheni uthando lube nokuthula futhi akukho okunye ongathembela kukho. ”
Noma, ungase ube nobungane obuningi futhi ungabi nothando olwanele, okubeka uthuli kwezinye izindawo zobudlelwane bakho.
Ukuze uthole indawo yobungane ngaphandle kokulimaza ezinye izici zenyunyana yakho, kufanele ubeke isikhathi ikakhulukazi esothando noma ikakhulukazi ubungane, noma ngabe kufanele uhlele isikhathi.
Isibonelo, ungenza isikhathi sokudla sibe yisikhathi sobungani nokuxoxa ngosuku lwakho. Kunalokho, ungasebenzisa isikhathi olala ngaso ukuze uthole uthando nezothando. Noma, ungase uthande ukucabangela ukuphuma njengesikhathi sobungani, futhi ube nosuku olulodwa noma ezimbili zeviki zothando, okusho ukuthi uyobuka ifilimu yothando noma ujabulele ukudla okukhandlekwa e-bistro yakho oyintandokazi encane.
Kunoma yikuphi, kufanele uthole indlela yokwenza ubuhlobo bakho nobungane busebenze ndawonye ukuze kwakhiwe isibopho esiqinile. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ubungane obuhle buhlanganisani futhi uzame ukugcina izinga lobungane nesithandwa sakho. Ubudlelwano bakho buzovuna imivuzo yale nhlanganisela enamandla.