Ukuphila kugcwele izenzakalo ezihlukahlukene, ezinhle nezimbi. Isehlukaniso yilokho okuvame ukubizwa ngokuthi isiqephu esibi. Ngisho noma inqubo yakho yezomthetho ingaba lula kangakanani ngosizo lwefemu yabameli bakho bezehlukaniso, kusenzima ukusinda esahlukaniso ngenxa yemizwa ecindezelayo. Futhi lokhu kungokwemvelo njengoba ukuphila kuyashintsha futhi kungase kube nzima ukuzivumelanisa nezimo ezintsha, ikakhulukazi uma ukuphila komndeni wakho bekukuhle impela. Ukuqedwa komshado kuyacindezela kunoma yikuphi futhi kulesi simo udinga ukufunda indlela yokubhekana nemizwa yesehlukaniso ukuze ingakhuli ibe yizinkinga ezinzima kakhulu.
Ukuchithwa komshado kuhlobene nokubhujiswa kwethemba. Kusenza singene ekungaqiniseki, yingakho isehlukaniso sibuhlungu. Kodwa ngalesi sikhathi kuyadingeka ukuqapha imizwelo yakho futhi ubheke izindlela zokuphuma. Ngokwemvelo, ukuqedwa ngakunye kuhlukile ngokwemvelo, kodwa kukhona amathiphu abalulekile, ngenxa yalokho kokubili abesifazane nabesilisa ababhekana nemizwa yesehlukaniso ngempumelelo.
Thola iqembu lokusekela
Kubalulekile ukulandelela imizwa yakho, ukuqonda imizwa oba nayo. Kodwa kunoma yikuphi, ungazami ukubavimba ngokuthile okufana nozakwethu abaningi, ukudla ngokweqile noma utshwala. Ngisho nemizwa engemihle kumele ube nayo ukuze uzivumele uye phambili. Nakuba kunzima kakhulu ukukwenza uwedwa. Ngakho-ke, kuwumqondo omuhle ukuthola umuntu ozokweseka futhi akusize uhambe ngale ndlela. Mhlawumbe kuyoba isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo, umngane oseduze, osebenza naye, noma isihlobo sakho. Futhi kuyinketho enhle kakhulu yokuthola noma yimaphi amaqembu osizo lapho kuhlangene khona abantu abanezimo zempilo ezifanayo. Ukudlula ezikhathini ezinzima ndawonye kulula kakhulu.Zivumele uphumule
Kungokwemvelo ukucindezeleka lapho udivosa. Ngalesi sikhathi, ungase ungakhiqizi kangako emsebenzini futhi ukhohlwe ngisho nempilo yakho yokuxhumana nabantu. Uma kwenzeka lokhu kuwe, kungcono ukuthatha iholidi elincane futhi ushintshe indawo. Isibonelo, hamba endaweni ethile ethandekayo lapho ungaphumuza khona futhi ushaje kabusha. Kungaba kuhle ukuvakashela indawo ongakaze uye kuyo ukuze uthole imizwa eyakhayo.
Zinakekele wena nomzimba wakho
Enye yezindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokuqeda imizwa engemihle ukuzivocavoca umzimba. Lapha ungakwazi ukulahla bonke ubuhlungu bakho, intukuthelo, ukucasuka, ukukhungatheka. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ukuqina nakho kunomphumela omuhle emzimbeni wakho. Vumela i-ex ibe nomona ngesimo sakho esisha. Kufakazelwa ukuthi ukuvivinya umzimba nakho kuthuthukisa imizwa. Isehlukaniso yithuba elihle kakhulu lokuzilungiselela ogwini noma inkathi yasebusika. Futhi, ungakhohlwa mayelana nokuphumula, ngezikhathi ezithile zama ukuzihlelela izinqubo zokuphumula, ezifana ne-massage noma ukunakekelwa kwe-spa. Gqoka izingubo ezinhle; lokhu kuyinto ezojabulisa amehlo akho futhi ikhulise ukuzethemba.
Zama ukuthintana kancane nowakwakho.
Nakuba isehlukaniso singakapheli, zama ukunciphisa ukuxhumana nomuntu ozokuba-ex maduze. Khuluma kuphela ngezihloko ezibalulekile ezihlobene nokuqedwa kwakho kanye nekusasa lezingane zakho. Lokhu kuyadingeka ukuze ugweme izingxabano ezimbi futhi unciphise idrama. Kamuva, lapho isikhathi sihamba futhi imizwa iyancipha, ungakwazi ukuxhumana njengabangane bakudala, kodwa okokuqala, ngenkathi isilonda sisenhliziyweni yakho, kungcono ukuhlehla.Funda ukuthethelela
Ukuthethelela kuyinto eyisisekelo yendlela yokubhekana nesehlukaniso esibuhlungu. Naphezu kokuthi kungase kube nzima kangakanani, thethelela i-ex yakho. Ngoba empeleni kuyadingeka kuwe kuqala, hhayi kuye. Ngokuvamile, uma usacasukile, lokhu akuphazamisi impilo yakhe nhlobo. Kodwa kunomphumela olimaza kakhulu empilweni yakho. Ayikuvumeli ukuthi uqhubeke, ayikuvumeli ukwakha impilo entsha. Inhlamba iwubumnyama obuqeda umphefumulo. Ukuthethelela kuyindlela yokwelapha. Noma kukuzwisa ubuhlungu kakhulu, zama ukukuyeka, uzozizwa ungcono. Ukuthethelela yikho okwenza impilo yakho ibe lula futhi igcwale.
Kuyeke kuhambe
Zinike isikhathi sokululama kulokho okubuhlungu. Bese udedela okwedlule kwakho. Uma icala seliphelile, sekuyisikhathi sokubhekana nemizwa ngemuva kwesehlukaniso. Okokuqala, udinga ukuziqonda futhi uthole ukuthi yiziphi izizathu eziholele ekutheni ubuhlobo bakho buphukile. Bobabili yibona abahlale benecala kulengxabano. Hlaziya izenzo zakho bese uzama ukuthola ukuthi wenze iphutha yini. Lesi yisinyathelo esibalulekile, njengoba sizosiza ukuvimbela amaphutha esikhathini esizayo. Mhlawumbe udinga usizo lukachwepheshe. Futhi lapho ukushisa kushisa, ungakwazi ngisho nokubuza i-ex yakho, mayelana nokuthi yini ngempela iphutha lakho.Khulisa ukucabanga okuhle
Unedrama eyanele empilweni yakho, futhi udinga ukuqala ukugxila kokuhle. Isibonelo, ukufunda izincwadi ezikhuthazayo, ukuxoxa nabantu abanobungane, ukwenza okuthile okukunika amandla, ukuthola umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa othakazelisayo nokuthola okuthile okuhle ezintweni ezincane. Uma ugxila ezicini ezinhle, ngeke uze ube nesikhathi sokuqaphela ukuthi ukuphila kwakho sekushintshe ngokushesha kangakanani kwaba ngcono.
Vele uziqeqeshe ukucabanga ngezinto ezinhle ngisho nasezikhathini ezinzima. Futhi izincwadi ezikhethekile zizokusiza ngalokhu. Ngezansi kunohlu lwezincwadi ezimayelana nokubhekana nemizwa enzima yesehlukaniso:
1. “Akekho Okufanele Abekwe Icala” kaBob Hoffman
Ziningi izincwadi ezikhuluma ngendlela yokusinda ezilingweni zempilo. Kodwa le ncwadi iyingqayizivele ngoba ichaza indlela yombhali eyakhiwe nguMnu Hoffman. Indlela yokusebenza echazwe kuyo, i-Quadrinity Process, ikuvumela ukuthi ucabangele ngokweqile impilo yakho futhi ubheke izinto ozaziyo ngombono omusha. Le ncwadi ihlanganisa iziqondiso zomoya kanye nokuxhumana ngemilingo. Le nqubo, eyakhiwa ngo-1967, isisize abantu abaningi ukuba basinde emzabalazweni empilweni.
2. "Ukuqaphela Ukuhlanganisa: Izinyathelo Ezi-5 Zokuphila Ngokujabulisayo Njalo Ngemuva" nguKatherine Woodward Thomas.
Izincwadi eziningi ezikhuluma ngendlela yokubhekana nedivosi zigxile kwabesifazane. Kodwa le ncwadi iwusizo olukhulu kuwo wonke umuntu! U-Katherine wabelana ngokuhlakanipha kwempilo okusiza ekutholeni ukuthula nokuzwana ngezinyathelo ezi-5. Ngemva kokufunda le ncwadi, impilo yakho izoba nengqondo futhi icabange.
3. “Izivunguvungu Azikwazi Ukulimaza Isibhakabhaka: Indlela YamaBuddha Ngokuhlukanisa Isehlukaniso” kaGabriel Cohen
Le ncwadi ibhalwe ngendaba yombhali, futhi iqukethe amathiphu ahlukahlukene awusizo azosiza ukubhekana nemizwa futhi ugxile ekuthuthukisweni okungokomoya.
4. “Ukuhlukana Ngocezu Olulodwa: Uhambo Lwe-One Optimist Through the Hell of Divorce” ngu-Stacy Morrison
Le ncwadi ibhalwe ngokuhlangenwe nakho komuntu siqu kombhali, okwadingeka nokuba abekezelele isehlukaniso esibuhlungu. Ebhalwe ngamahlaya, usifundisa ukuphila impilo entsha, ukuthanda, ukuthethelela nokukholelwa kuwena.
5. “Ukuqeda Ukuhlukana Kwakho: Indlela Yokuguqula Ukulahlekelwa Okudabukisayo Kube Into Engcono Kakhulu Kwake Kwenzeke Kuwe” kaSusan J. Elliott
Le yincwadi enhle kakhulu enikeza izingcezu ezisebenzayo zezeluleko zokuthi ungasusa kanjani ukuncika ngokomzwelo kulowo wangaphambili futhi uyeke ukugxila kuye.
6. "Lokhu Imina Ngikuyeka Uhambe" nguHeidi Priebe
Isehlukaniso sinzima, ikakhulukazi uma umthanda lo muntu. Incwadi kaHeidi Priebe isiza ukuvumela umuntu okushiyile ukuthi ahambe futhi asinde emizweni yokubulala.
7. "Into Enhle, Esabekayo" kaJen Waite
Enye incwadi ibhalwe ngomlando womuntu siqu wombhali. UJen kwadingeka afunde ngokungathembeki komyeni wakhe-sociopath futhi abekezelele isehlukaniso esesabekayo. Emsebenzini wakhe uxoxa ngolwazi lwakhe nokuthi yini eyamsiza ukuthi asinde esimweni esinzima.
8. "Kwenzeka Nsuku Zonke: Indaba Eyiqiniso Kakhulu" ka-Isabel Gilles
Incwadi ebhalelwe labo abaye bafaka okuningi emshadweni, ngaphandle kokuzikhandla, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ngisho nokubalimaza. Kuzokwenza ukuthi ulahle ukuzidabukela futhi uyeke ukuhlupheka, futhi kuzokusiza ukuthuthukisa isimo sengqondo esihle.
Igama langemuva
Isehlukaniso singamqeda umuntu. Kodwa lokhu akukona ukuphela kwempilo. Hlala ukholelwa ekusaseni eliqhakazile. Ngoba kunezimo lapho ukuze wakhe into entsha, udinga ukubhidliza yonke into endala. Isehlukaniso yisikhathi sokucabanga kabusha ngempilo yakho, usebenzele amaphutha, uguqule imikhuba emibi futhi ukhulise ukucabanga kwakho. Abantu abaningi kakade sebedlule ngempumelelo ezenzakalweni ezimangalisayo ezinjalo ekuphileni kwabo, qiniseka ukuthi uzokwazi ukubhekana nakho nawe.